“Who Else Wants To Move Forward
Through The Grief of Pet Loss… Rather Than Sitting And Crying Helplessly?”
Using Robin Jean Brown’s Dependable ROAR Method.
If you loved your pet, this special guide is necessary…to get the help you need right now. Instantly. Even if it’s 3 in the morning.
“Robin, when I lost my dog after 11 wonderful years, I was devastated. I felt all alone without my beloved companion. When I tried talking to people, they would laugh and tell me it’s just a dog. After reading your guide and doing the exercises, I’m feeling tremendously better than before. I’m still grieving, but I’m thankful that now I have a helpful resource to comfort me.” Jennifer T. |
From the Desk of: John Bash, President of Spring Water Publishing
Written:
Dear Friend,
All pet lovers have to face the death of their pets, sooner or later.
Other people don’t understand what it’s like. They may think that “it’s just a dog,” “only a cat,” or “just a rabbit.” But you and I know that the pain of loss that we feel is very deep and very real.
You see, it’s not only the loss through the death of your animal…but also the losses of companionship, comfort, security and love…that cause your pain.
Robin Jean Brown faced that journey when her beloved companion animal died after a long, painful ordeal with brain cancer.
An Easy To Follow Guide
That Will Show You
Exactly What To Do To Cope
Robin’s ebook will take you by the hand and lead you through all five stages of grief. How to ROAR: Pet Loss Grief Recovery is not something that’s passive, where you just read about other people.
Instead you’ll find exercises and self-help activities that will help you work through your pain. Every chapter has Journaling Questions that will validate the sorrow that you’re feeling, as Robin leads you to create your own unique story of you and your beloved pet.
Robin is a kind, understanding person, because she’s been through the sadness herself of losing a pet who she considered to be her closest friend in the world.
Many people don’t understand this truth: “Grief is like a raging river. In order to get to the other side, you must swim through it. And if you avoid swimming through, you’ll never get to other side.”
Many People Harm Themselves
By Suppressing Their Grief.
Due To These 14 Myths…
- Myth#1: People who experience intense grief over a pet who died (or will die) are weird.
- Myth#2: The loss of pet is insignificant when compared to the loss of
human life. To grieve for the loss of a pet devalues the importance
of human relationships. - Myth#3: It’s best to replace the lost pet as quickly as possible to ease the pain of loss.
- Myth#4: You should mourn alone. Be strong and independent when it comes to this. Don’t burden others with your problems.
- Myth#5: You should “just get over it.”
- Myth#6: You’re selfish if you euthanize your pet.
- Myth#7: The best way to cope is to suppress and bury your grief. Keep busy so as to not dwell on your troubles.
- Myth#8: When people talk with sadness about missing their furbaby, it’s best to redirect their attention to pleasant memories they have about the pet.
- Myth#9: Time heals all wounds. Just give it enough time and you’ll no longer feel so bad.
- Myth#10: The best way to protect yourself from the pain of pet loss is to not get another pet ever again.
- Myth#11: Children handle pet death rather easily. The experience will not be carried over into adult life.
- Myth#12: It is best to protect children from the upsetting truth of what has happened to their pet.
- Myth#13: Pets don’t mourn for other pets.
- Myth#14: There is no need for someone to work through their emotions step by step in order to deal with this.
Truth: You are normal and healthy when you feel this way. People who have strong feelings about the loss are capable of intimate attachments and deep emotional bonding. This is something to be proud of, not something to put down.
Truth: The loss of a beloved animal companion can be as emotionally significant as the loss of a close human relative. You can love and care about both animals and humans.
Truth: An animal companion can never be “replaced.” Every pet is different, with a unique personality. Naturally, the bonding toward each the pet is different. So, before getting another pet, people need to be emotionally ready.
Truth: Mourners can greatly benefit by the empathy, caring, and understanding of supportive others. (And by the way, others do want to help you.) However, it’s necessary to be selective about where you turn to for help because some people do not take pet loss seriously.
Truth: When people say this to you, it’s based on the faulty assumption that you get closure to your mourning when you have only pleasant memories of your pet. But not everyone can achieve quick resolution on their own to such a profound loss. You see, one cannot fully appreciate pleasant memories unless one has unpleasant memories to contrast them with.
Truth: Euthanasia can a compassionate and humane way to end the intense suffering or declining quality of life of a companion animal. It would be selfish to prolong the suffering of an animal in pain.
Truth: Grief will not just go away. Sure, it may go away unresolved…only to come back haunting you. By following the exercises and applying the ROAR methods to go beyond the five stages of grief…you’ll be able to accept your reality…and move toward recovery from the pain.
Truth: People who talk about their unpleasant feelings want receptive ears. Redirecting their attention reflects the discomfort of the listener rather than the needs of the mourner.
Truth: Time by itself does not heal the pain. It’s what you do with your time that matters.
Truth: This isn’t the solution. Though there’s a price for loving
the pet deeply, the courageous act of getting another pet brings
positive hope to the mourner. (Don’t do this too soon though. On page 127, Robin reveals when the time is right to get a new pet.)
Truth: Children feel as strongly over the loss of a pet as adults do. You should not overlook this.
Truth: Without showing the truth to children, it will cause more
pain to them. And they may unfairly blame themselves for their pet
“running away.”
Truth: Some animals do develop strong bonds with other pets in the household. They will show some symptoms of mourning as people do.
Truth: Grieving is a long, complex process. Robin’s guide will take you through the stages of grief — what to expect, what not to expect, and…most importantly…for each stage it will answer the question “Why do I feel this way?”
If you’re still holding onto any of the 14 myths of grief…Robin Jean Brown’s comforting guide is absolutely for you.
You’ll Have Instant Help
To Get You Through The
Turmoil, Sadness, and Tears
That’s because this special guide is available in ebook format that you download instantly. That means that you get this effective material when you need it the most — right now.
There’s no waiting in line at the bookstore, and no waiting for a shipment to arrive in the mail.
You can instantly get this comforting material right now — I mean within the next minute you can be reading it!
You’ll find glimmers of hope when you learn:
- The “when’s” and “how’s” of your relationship with your pet. You’ll feel comforted when you use this worksheet Robin gives you. (Page 23)
- How deep is your love for your pet? The answer may surprise you…and warm your heart. (Page 33)
- Who your pet really was. When you finish this exercise, you’ll know all about your pet’s personality, breed, health, and what made them a good pet. You’ll even know what some good rescue organizations are. (Page 41)
- Do you sometimes forget your pet is gone — only to suddenly remember that they are, and then you break down crying? This is totally normal and is part of the denial stage of grief. You’ll get an action plan to work through this. (Page 49)
- Are you racked with guilt because you feel like there was something you could have done to make your pet live longer and happier? Robin reveals why guilt is harming you unnecessarily – which is not what your pet would have wanted. She works with you to find out the underlying irrational belief that’s causing your guilt. (Page 93) Then Robin reveals the exact steps to erase your guilt. (Page 98)
- How to have your pet die with dignity, in comfortable conditions with the people they love…through hospice care. Hospice is a familiar program for humans who want a sense of calm and safety during their final moments. Now animal hospice care is more widely available, and you’ll learn the exact steps to take if you want to pursue this humane option. (Page 109)
- After you’ve worked through the stages of grief, there’s a little known but highly-needed way to help animals that is actually the best way to reintroduce yourself to the possibility of a new pet. (Page 124)
Robin Jean Brown understands firsthand the deep bond that can develop between person and animal. She’s not some cold psychologist, but rather a pet owner herself who dealt with her own painful journey through the grieving process.
She found that there wasn’t a lot of help for her. Other books are either too cold and clinical…or they’re too sad, and just make you cry harder. And none of them had workbook-style questions to guide her through her journey.
So Robin wrote the guide herself – to deal with your grief, effectively and step by step. She is personal, empathetic, and comforting – yet at the same time she’ll help you move through your grief.
Her special ebook will introduce you to a revolutionary way of coping with pet loss. Robin developed and delicately refined a 4 Step Technique for coping with pet loss that she coined “ROAR.”
Here’s a brief introduction to this technique by Robin Jean Brown herself…
“It’s easy to remain passive during the grief process and to see yourself as nothing more than a helpless victim. For this reason, it’s important to use your acceptance of the situation as a jumping off point for a renewed commitment to your life. Going beyond the five stages of grief helps you to ROAR into a new existence.”
Here’s what Robin Jean Brown promises you – soon after learning the “ROAR” method to grieve the death of your pet…
“Embracing life again
is such an exciting possibility and you are
at the point to do just that. You have
acknowledged and dealt with the pain of
death. You have explored the grief process
and know how to move on. You respect the
lives of those no longer with us and
appreciate that you need to live joyfully
too. Guilt, denial and anger are banished
from your outlook, and you are
emotionally healthy once again.”
So, If You Have Lost Your Pet –
Do You Want To Embrace Your Life,
And Be Emotionally Healthy Again?
Keep reading…Don’t forget to find out the sad experience of the
author. Maybe it’s similar to what happened to you.
In Robin’s guide – How to ROAR: Pet Loss Grief Recovery, you’ll discover nuggets of wisdom that will help you to…
Robin Jean Brown will work with you to help you get through these stages step-by-step, using the most effective methods possible. Her coveted guide also reveals:
Plus…Robin goes the extra mile As you work through the pain of pet loss, you may have read many other books. Have they worked? No, maybe not. Why? Because you have to do something to work through your grief. You must take action and break through what’s holding you back. You can’t just read…and wish…your way out of the rut you’re stuck in. There’s nothing wrong with you – that other stuff just doesn’t show you how it works for you. That’s why Robin gives you full-detailed journaling questions throughout her guide, to lead you through the grieving process. Even if the death of your pet, though inevitable, hasn’t happened to you yet – this is a worthy investment in peace of mind. Wouldn’t it be better to get prepared and learn how to enjoy each moment you get? I know you’re wise to do so. “Grief can lead to depression… You don’t shave, you don’t
“Contact a mental health professional immediately”… or at
“Depression (due to grief) could surely be described as
Humans are most often at a loss as to how to…
Plus, in the pages Robin Jean Brown’s guide, you’ll discover how to…
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About the Author: A Real Life Story…
And also like a lot of people, I’ve had to deal with the tragedy of pets dying my whole life. Until recently, probably the hardest loss I’ve experienced was when I was little and our bulldog ran away. When our family dog Clyde ran away, I was very sad and I felt an emptiness in my 9-year old life. My parents later told me that Clyde had actually been run over by a car. I survived, and as the years went on, we got more pets and everything was fine. Flash forward to today. My beautiful, noble, intelligent Border collie mix, Andy, was my life. It was hard moving to new places because of my job, and leaving my friends and family behind. But even though it was hard I always had Andy by my side. For a while he was my best friend and the only “person” I could talk to every day. He was always with me and totally loyal no matter what. Then one fall, Andy started feeling really sick and run down. The top of his head looked and felt strangely sunken in. I took him to the vet and the following January Andy was diagnosed with inoperable brain cancer. The news was shocking, but I was determined to give Andy the greatest life any dog could ever have during all of his remaining days. His decline was steady. His vision was decreasing with each passing day, and by February he was blind. Then he started going to the bathroom in the house, which was so unlike him because he was always the best-behaved boy, and he would never think to do something like that. When Andy died after months of illness, it was different than the other times I had experienced the loss of a pet. People told me that my loss would get better with time, but it didn’t. Day after day the feelings continued. I was deeply, overwhelmingly distraught – so much so that I would just sit on my couch and not move all day. My whole body ached, like I had the flu. I wouldn’t eat. I didn’t want to live anymore without my baby boy. (And that was SCARY because I’ve never lost the will to live before.) I had reached bottom emotionally, and I felt so completely worn out. I didn’t know what to do. No one understood what I was feeling. I tried to ask for advice, and none of it worked. People would tell me to “get over it.” But that was easier said than done. I looked around for books on the subject of pet loss and grieving and found they weren’t readily available. So I kept investigating. Once I had done some research, I realized that this would be the perfect opportunity for me to write a book (which I’d always wanted to do). It used to be that I wanted to write the great American novel, but now, since I couldn’t stop grieving over the death of my baby boy, what better subject to write about than the grieving process? And what better tribute to my beloved pet? I was motivated and inspired. The writing process helped me more than I ever imagined it could. It is because of my own experience that I believe this book to be an important resource. You see, this is not just a book that you read passively. It offers a step-by-step approach for you to work – not to “get over it” (since we can never “get over it”) but to at least understand your grief, move towards the acceptance stage, and eventually become happy again (which is what our deceased pets would want). I truly believed that researching and writing this book would be good therapy for me, and it was! I immersed myself in this project. I exhausted all research possibilities, devoured every book I could find on the subject of dealing with grief, and talked to everyone I knew whod faced the grief of pet loss. When I was finished writing, I was able to think happy thoughts again. I could remember Andy and smile rather than cry. I hope that my book and the questions I ask you to think about will help you as much as they have helped me.” Robin Jean Brown |
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